How to Stop Overthinking and Just Say What You Mean

Did you enjoy Xmas with your family this year?

Was it a smooth gathering like in the movies, with happy faces, warm hugs plus a series of enjoyable conversations?

If the answer is yes, then I am genuinely happy for you, if the answer is rather 😒 "not really" then I might have some suggestions for improvement for you!

Do you want to hear them?

👉 Read on.

Possibly you have found yourself in situations like sitting with your family around the table, everybody is nicely chatting and then it happened again. 

You got asked the same old annoying and frustrating questions like every year.

"So what is it you do again?" "When are you finally having kids?" "Have you put on some weight?"

And all you can think in this moment is: 

😫 “I just should have stayed home. Why do I have to explain myself all the time? This is it. Next year I just play sick.”

Or perhaps you spent several hours shopping, stressing to make sure you get the perfect gifts for everyone. And then when it is finally time to open them? You only get some lukewarm responses:

"Oh, you got me this? Looks... cheap. I already have something like this. But thanks anyway." 

Your heart drops. All that effort? All that money? For nothing?

😡 You're mad. You want to say something. You're so ready to say something.

But... you can't 🤐.

The words get stuck in your throat. You freeze. Your head starts spinning in every direction.

At that point you may or may not have realized you don’t want to upset them. You don’t want to be the trouble maker, ruining everybody's Xmas. And so maybe you fake a smile and try to act like nothing happened.

To keep everything smooth, everyone happy. Except yourself 😖.

I get it. I felt this way for years.

Situations with family, my boss, colleagues—where something felt off, where I had enough, but I felt so deeply insecure about what to say.

I'd overthink it constantly 😳. Morning, lunch, lying in bed. How do I say it? When do I say it?

And then I'd give up 😣. Convince myself I was making it bigger than it was.

And if I finally said something, I woulde play it down, making it sound like “Not a big deal, all good” 😬.

🤯 But then at some point I realized:

#1: Overthinking doesn't help you—it paralyzes you.

You think if you just find the perfect words, everything will go smoothly.

But here's the truth: all that overthinking isn't helping. It's paralyzing you. There's no magic phrase that makes everyone happy.

So nothing changes. You keep hearing the same questions. Keep exhausting yourself keeping everyone else happy while you feel empty. And that frustration? It keeps growing.

#2: Being honest doesn't make you a bad person.

Saying what you mean isn't cruel. It means you know what you want, you trust yourself, and you're not afraid to tell the truth. Because YOU KNOW IT MATTERS. 

You can finally relax in conversations. Sharing honestly and authentically what you think without feeling nervous or terrified. And so people take you serious and respect you because the deal with the real you.

#3: You can't control other people's reactions.

You can try to control how others will react to you, but why? No matter how hard you try some people will handle it well. Some not.

So stop wasting your energy trying to make everyone comfy.

And start trusting that what you think and want matters. And express it—not because you're selfish, but because it's right and respectful to you and others.

So you might have noticed when you constantly overthink, doubt and hold yourself back, that what really is going is that don't trust yourself 😳.

And when you don't trust yourself, you don't take yourself seriously. So no matter how perfect your words are, people sense it. And they won't take you ❌ seriously either.

That is why it’s obvious that you’re realizing that learning to say what you mean while trusting yourself is one of the 💪 most important skills you need in 2026.

👉 Because when you do, here's what happens:

✓ You stop wasting energy over-explaining yourself. You just say it. Clear. Kind. Direct. Done.
✓ That tightness in your throat when family asks annoying questions? Gone.
✓ The panic before sharing your opinion? Vanished.
✓ The endless conversation loops in your head? Stopped.
✓ The pressure to constantly justify yourself? Disappeared.

🔥 You realize the most important person you need to take seriously is YOURSELF.

🔥 Then every time you want to say something, you just do it. You don't overthink. You do what feels right.

🔥 You show up more authentic. More clear. More confident.

🔥 And then people start listening. Understanding. Taking you seriously. Respecting you. Stop questioning you.

So are you ready to step out of the overthinking loop and start saying what you really think and need—with clarity, ease, and badass confidence?

Yes? Very Cool. Because the fact that you’ve read this far, means that you are ready to shift gears and make your next bold move, to join this workshop

💪 So let’s do it together. Grab your ticket and save your spot today.

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