Stop Saying "Yes" When you want to Say "No"

Is saying NO one of your least favourite things to do too? 

😵 It’s not fun. It’s not exciting. It’s nothing you would say “I am super good in this”.

Especially when your boss drops by your desk just as you’re about to leave and says,

“Hey, could you quickly finish this report before tomorrow’s meeting?”.

You look at your half-packed bag. Your phone lights up - a message from your partner: “Can’t wait for our cozy evening together.”

You feel heavy 😣, you feel exhausted 😞 . It’s the third time this week you’ve been asked to “quickly” finish something — which never actually means quick. Which always means being stuck there until 10pm, missing a relaxing dinner and being more exhausted and totally frustrated.

But still something urges you to say “Yes, sure, I take care of that” and “No” to what you want and actually really need in this moment - going home, having a rest and enjoying your time with your partner.

But saying “Yes” in these moments just happens automatically to you, doesn’t it?

It seems you have this invisible button in you that gets pushed as soon as someone, especially your boss, asks you for your support.

Because saying “No” in that moment feels so far out of reach for you 🙁.

❌ Because you don’t want to be dramatic.

❌ You don’t want to make things more difficult for others.

You want to show that you care and that others can count on you. 

And believe me, I get it. I said Yes to everyone and everything, because I thought that is what a good person does - taking care of other people’s needs. I was terrified that people would think I am a bad person, that I am selfish and that they would ignore and stop talking to me.

But I reached a point where I started to understand something that changed everything:

1️⃣ : Saying NO when you mean it, doesn’t mean you are selfish 

It means you get back into the driver’s seat of your own life. You start protecting your time, your energy, and the things that actually matter to you. And when you do that, everything changes. You show up with stronger boundaries in your work and your relationships. People stop using you as their back-up plan and start respecting your time and energy.

💪 Because you start respecting yourself.

2️⃣ : Always saying Yes puts you at risk for many things

It exhausts you as it creates a giant energy leak which drains and robs you of your time and energy.

You risk that people constantly interrupt you, drop “urgent” requests on your desk, or call you in the middle of your focus time, because you signal that you are, like good old Netflix, available all the time.

You risk to lose your productivity and focus at work, risk a bad performance feedback as you have put all your energy into everyone else’s demands but not in your actual work.  

It is not about being available for everyone and every time. It is about owning and protecting your boundaries so strongly that you know what you need and what you are willing and can say “Yes” to.

3️⃣ : You can’t avoid disappointing others

No matter how hard you try you will disappoint others. So instead of constantly being busy taking care of what others want, start taking care of what is you want and is truly best for you.

It is not about stopping to care for others or your work. It is about setting strong boundaries and protecting your time and energy.

Learning to say NO when you mean it, instead of automatically saying Yes to everything and everybody is one of the most important skills.

Because when you do, you will:

✅ Set clear and strong boundaries that stick:
     You stop explaining, over-justifying, or holding yourself back.
     You say what you need and mean it so that people listen to you. It is about being clear what you want.

✅ Fill your life with more of what fuels you - work that excites you, moments that recharge you, people who care about you and lift you up.

😎 So are you ready to stop saying “Yes” to the things that don’t fuel you and start saying “Yes” to the most important things in your life - your time, your energy and ultimately to yourself?

Yes? Very Cool. Because if you’ve read this far, then I’m pretty sure you are and that this workshop is exactly for you.

So let’s do it. Grab your ticket and save your spot now.

Hi I am Kathrin. A recovered people pleaser & ex-scientist who empowers dynamic & growth-driven professionals to express themselves with confidence & IMPACT. 

My workshops are all about you and:

💡 Playful, hands-on learning — No boring lectures or slides. You’ll move your body and experiment with different postures, gestures and your voice. The credo is: Apply what you learn in real time. 

 🙌 Learn and Connect - You’ll learn alongside others who are on the same journey. Through guided conversations in small groups and shared practice, you’ll learn together — not alone behind a screen.

⛔️ A judgment-free zone — This is a safe space to share, to laugh, experiment, and be exactly who you are. No need to perform — come as you are and explore what’s possible.

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